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A Letter to Reed’s Kindergarten Teacher

December 13, 2016

Dear Ms. R,

I was okay. Really, I was. Until I looked across the table at you and saw tears brimming in your eyes.

You’re a mom so you know that more than anything else we want for our kids, we want them to be loved. And while our love for them as mamas is big and fierce and strong, so very strong, we want to know that others appreciate, include, love our kids. It’s what keeps me up at night. Wondering, praying, hoping, searching for those little glimmers of reassurance.

Your tears reassured me that silly, sweet, loving, six year old boy is loved beyond our own four walls. Because you know that when someone knows they are loved, they can be so much more than we dare hope. Loved people love. 

You have spurred me on in my own love for him. Because if I’m honest, raw to the bone honest, sometimes love doesn’t come easy. Tired, frustrated, confused, sad, overwhelmed all come easy. But easy is a lie that never delivers and love is a truth that bears hope and light. So thank you for being a love bearer in his story.

After that meeting last week, that meeting where we all agreed that what he needs is a smaller, special needs-focused classroom, I cried because his season in your class is ending. I cried because he has done so well with you in your class. I know good things will come from his new teacher, new friends, and new school. But this good thing, this good space you created for him, deserves grieving. Grief testifies to great love.

You have done, as Mother Theresa once said, so many small things for him yet each one with great love. Small things with great love. That’s what’s made all the difference for him, for us. I know he will miss you, your classroom, and his friends fiercely. And I can’t change that, not even sure I should. Because I want y’all imprinted on his heart. I think that will give him great courage and great confidence as he takes these next steps. 

I know you haven’t done this all alone — your assistant teacher, his therapists, the resource teacher, the administration — all of you have come around this little boy and given him a great gift — love. And for that I am deeply grateful. 


A very thankful mama

6 Comments leave one →
  1. Deb permalink
    December 13, 2016 10:17 am

    Allison and Ben,
    Thank you for the word pictures of the impact of LOVE…. as a mother and a teacher this is a powerful reminder of the impact of God’s love through us to all people. Grateful !

    • December 13, 2016 12:40 pm

      Thanks for your kind words, Deb! Hope you and yours are doing well. Merry Christmas!

  2. Penny Clawson permalink
    December 13, 2016 5:27 pm

    As a teacher I was blessed because you as Momma know we want what’s best for your little guy. Each teacher strives to love and support families of children with special needs. The new teacher will love Reed too.

    • December 13, 2016 7:56 pm

      Thank you for your kind words, Penny! I know that you’ve been a tremendous blessing to the students (and their families) that you’ve taught.

  3. Karen smith permalink
    December 14, 2016 11:41 pm

    I tried to read this aloud, to Uncle Tim, but I cried as I read. I understand your tears, your love and what a beautiful child I see in Reed. I know he will have a wonderful new teacher, but I am glad he has had his time with his K class so far. I pray for him, your other children, you parents and all the grandparents, aunts, uncles and all who touch his life. What a wonderful child!

    • December 15, 2016 12:23 am

      Thank you, Aunt Karen. Your kind words and prayers encourage us!

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