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Five of us living this God-breathed life together.

Ben & Allison

Our story involves a chance meeting at Starbucks (even though then I didn’t drink coffee then), a motorcycle, half a watermelon, and a few up-til-4 a.m. conversations. About ten months after that motorcyclist showed up with two of his roommates and his leftover watermelon to my 4th of July party, we said “I do.” I count it no small grace that this year we celebrate our 12th anniversary.

Ben’s a pastor, entrepreneur, home renovation guru, and masterful wood worker. He can also sing and play the guitar. And grow the most jaw-dropping, manliest ginger beard. Clearly he has more talents than is reasonable. And I admire him completely. You can read more about him here.

As for me, writing really is my therapy. Words are life to me.

In our 12 years married, we’ve lived in seven eight nine different houses in two different states and have three fun, curious, persistent, adventurous kiddos. Let me introduce our chaos crew.


Six months post-nuptials we were expecting our first baby. He, as most first babies do, changed our life. But it wasn’t until just before his first birthday that we would understand exactly how much our lives had been changed by that sweet red-headed boy.

Genetic testing showed that Reed lives with a rare chromosome disorder. As his cells were forming and for reasons unknown, things went a bit differently than usual, forming a precious and most exceptional boy. To learn more about his unique circumstances, you can read this post I wrote.

At ten years old, his favorite color is red, he loves to act totally silly to make others laugh, and this boy loves to be outside. He’s insanely good at puzzles. He’s got his daddy’s attention to details and his mama’s deeply run emotions. I love nothing more than to see the bright look in his eyes when he’s accomplished something new, ventured brave to try something on his own, or used his generous spirit to connect with another person.


Our middle kiddo does not meet a stranger because for this wide-open spirit, there’s always room for just one more person at the table! People routinely tell me that he’ll be president one day. Nicknamed Joy to the World (by my Mamaw) as a baby, he talks, sings, run, skips, bounces, and exuberantly bounds through most days. He has his mama’s love for words and his daddy’s self-confident determination, with a dash of his Aunt Erin’s mischievousness.

His current obsessions include legos, Rocket League, and writing books. He wins title for the loudest person I have ever met, and his love is equally as loud and wonderful. Without question, he brings so much light to our family.


Ansley, our five year old who we affectionately call “baby” more than her given name, is the yin to Luke’s yang. Even from her earliest days, she’s been an observer, thinker, and skeptic, carefully scoping out new people and new situations before rewarding you with one of her captivating smiles. She is fiercely independent, paints beautiful pictures, and loves her chickens. Her favorite color is pink or purple, loves to snuggle with me, and has the best laugh you’ll ever hear.

Our Family

We embrace the gift of family God’s given us, exactly as we know it, trusting the story He is so graciously and beautifully writing.

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  1. Carl King permalink
    February 2, 2014 8:00 pm

    How i have missed it all this time, i do not know… but i was delighted to find your blog when you posted ‘she writes!’ on fb recently. I am blown away. Your writing is both an invitation to and a bestowal of grace. Your witness is so open and authentic that it models for readers the clear permission to leave pretension at the door. Christ’s power is made perfect in our weakness. (2 Cor 12:19) The way you share your story so very clearly invites Christ is reign. Thank you, and bless you!

    I found all the above to be true in the posts i read, and especially on your Byxbe-pedia page. I see it is under construction right now. i hope it comes back with the same compelling introduction of yourself and your wonderful family. It is abundantly clear that Ben is blessed to be married to you, and your two boys have an amazing mother whose abiding love for them is deep and wide.

    You were an impressive college student back in Columbia. You have continued to grow in stature and grace. I rejoice!

    Grace & Peace,
    Carl King

    • February 2, 2014 10:09 pm

      Rev. Carl! Thank you for your kind, kind words. So good to hear from a friend and mentor. I was just sharing with Ben about the trips to the Bahamas you shepherded with all of us CC girls. Hard to believe I’ll be attending my 10 year college reunion this fall!

      I hope that you, Stacy, and Amalia are doing well. I love that FB allows me glimpses into y’alls life!

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